Cerminan Diri. How To Become A Better Person. Practically

People often say that who you’re with is a reflection of yourself…

A lot of people complain on the dislikes in a partner that they are with.

Some girls who are unfortunate end up with husbands that abuse them, and some end up with husbands that are just irresponsible and mean.

And these girls are in pain and in misery. It wouldn’t be fair if I just talk about girls in misery. Same goes for men.

They end up with a wife who does not take care of her appearance, who is lazy, who flirts with other men at work, who doesnt respect the husband, who constantly complains that he doesnt give enough financial support, and the list gooooes on.

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May we all be prevented from this test, and for those who are under the test may you be given Sakinah within you and Sabr in facing those trials..

To be with a person that we dislike?

If we really start to think why we’re with a person that has some characteristics that you dislike so much. Then look within yourself, look hard within yourself.

There has to be something about you that is still not right, that needs to be fixed. Which is of course, we all have sins don’t we. Check our hearts.

Check our relationship with the One.

After all, if you want the best, you must be the best. And you wont get the best in the end, because we’re alll not perfect.

When imperfections are combined with another imperfection, its almost equal to disaster no?

Not complete each other and live happily ever after like what the fairy tales taught us :P.

I guess what we need is a companion that can continue to support us in life struggles and help us to become a better person. Its more of giving than receiving.

I guess thats why in religion, for a husband and for a wife have they have their own responsibilities and guidance on what to do.

And if you stick to the rules, which is by pleasing the Creator, the capacity to continue giving love to the person strengthens.

Afterall, that love feeling is a gift from the Creator itself.

Hence…, I guess thats how the love strengthens.

And it doesnt just stop there between spouses, it begins from loving yourself , then extending it to others and to the whole ummah

Often when people say rules, they talk about what are my rights, and what are your rights. And between spouses we demand whats our rights. This becomes a huuuge issue then.

But religion must be practiced holistically not just partial.

Perlaksanaan tanggungjawab mesti diiringi dengan akhlak.

Akhlak mampu melembutkan sesorang dengan izinNya of course.

Berapa ramai yang berubah berjinak-jinak untuk menjadi lebih baik disebabkan dengan akhlak seseorang..?

I can understand this myself, because I understand a persons feeling how we cant just simply follow the rule although we know its wrong.

Thats cause I was the person, and still am the person.

And doa doa doa is the only weapon that can save you. It is hard, struggling understanding how to be a full practicing muslim.

And they say that hidayah does not come rolling to us just like that, nor does it drop from the sky just like that…

We need to seek it.

I am still on a journey seeking it.. And I hope you’re together with me on this journey…

Continue to repent and improve yourself is the only key solution I guess..And I hope , and truly hope that all of us will be given taufiq and hidayah..

“When you see someone who is not as religious, remember that you were once on the edge of the fire, and it was Allah (swt)’s favor upon you to guide you. Arrogance will wipe away any goodness from the transformation.”

-Nouman Ali Khan

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